Discovering Your Love Language

This is a questionaire adapted for the web from The Five Love Languages workbook by Gary Chapman. We would highly recommend reading the book to better understand the results of this profile.

For each pair, choose the one that most accurately describes you.

  1. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you.
    I like it when you hug me.

  2. I like to spend one-on-one time with you.
    I feel loved when you give practical help to me.

  3. I like it when you give me gifts.
    I like taking long walks with you.

  4. I feel loved when you do things to help me.
    I feel loved when you touch me.

  5. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms.
    I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.

  6. I like to go places with you.
    I like to hold hands with you.

  7. Visible symbols of love (like gifts) are very important to me.
    I feel loved when you affirm me.

  8. I like to sit close to you.
    I like for you to tell me I'm attractive/handsome.

  9. I like spending time with you.
    I like receiving little gifts from you.

  10. Your words of acceptance are important to me.
    I know you love me when you help me.

  11. I like to be together when we do things.
    I like the kind words you say to me.

  12. What you do affects me more than what you say.
    I feel whole when we hug.

  13. I value your praise and am affected deeply by your criticism.
    Several inexpensive gifts from you mean more to me than one large gift.

  14. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.
    I feel closer to you when you touch me often.

  15. I like it when you compliment me for my achievements.
    I know you love me when you do things for me that you do not enjoy doing.

  16. I like for you to touch me when you walk by.
    I like it when you listen to me sympathetically.

  17. I feel loved when you help me with my jobs around the house.
    I really enjoy receiving gifts from you.

  18. I like it when you compliment my appearance.
    I feel loved when you take time to understand my feelings.

  19. I feel secure when you are touching me.
    Your acts of service make me feel loved.

  20. I appreciate the many things that you do for me.
    I like receiving gifts that you make for me.

  21. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention.
    I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.

  22. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift.
    I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (either written or spoken).

  23. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
    I feel loved when you help me with my chores.

  24. I appreciate it when you listen patiently without interrupting me.
    I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift.

  25. I like to know you are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.
    I enjoy extended trips with you.

  26. Kissing or hugging me unexpectedly excites me.
    Giving me a gift for no special occassion excites me.

  27. I like to be told that you appreciate me.
    I like for you to look at me when we are talking.

  28. Your gifts are always special to me.
    I feel good when you are touching me.

  29. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do some task I have requested.
    I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.

  30. I need to be touched every day.
    I need your words of affirmation every day.